{"id":16202,"date":"2024-11-19T22:48:29","date_gmt":"2024-11-19T22:48:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/newsite\/?p=16202"},"modified":"2024-11-20T08:37:29","modified_gmt":"2024-11-20T08:37:29","slug":"the-effect-of-acceptance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/cathalcostello\/the-effect-of-acceptance\/","title":{"rendered":"The effect of acceptance"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Cathal Costello Costello<\/p><p><a href=\"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/Screenshot_2024-11-19-17-08-14-927_jp.naver_.line_.android.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/11\/Screenshot_2024-11-19-17-08-14-927_jp.naver_.line_.android-150x150.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"400\" alt=\"Screenshot_2024-11-19-17-08-14-927_jp.naver_.line_.android.jpg\" style=\"display:inline-block\"><\/a> <\/p><h6>Share a quick story of the monk in the middle. He was a big part of me having the balls to ordain as a monk. He was really a wild monk early on apparently(from what I was told) but the calmness and genuine metta he had really surprised me. I was around him a lot and got to see how accepting and caring he was yet I noticed his skillful way of not getting attached. I was very unfamiliar with someone who actually had genuine metta, who didn&#8217;t want anything from me but was sharing his state of enjoyment of life. I was way to use to ordinary stuff the smile on the outside fumes on the inside and the constant validstion seeking we partake in. I wondered how he was always In a easy going relaxed state despite whoeverr showed up to the wat. <\/p>\n<p>It only became surprising after a couple of months with him, it was the consistency and integrity that slowly that thought creeped up in me. I thought &#8220;Wow this is some high level monk&#8221; lol but most monks who hit 10+ years are like this at least the ones who put some work in themselves hangout noble ones Its fairly normal to me at this point. <\/p>\n<p>Hanging around those guys I guess hit me hard on a subconscious level or something that no matter how messed up I got especially with all my westerner baggage I can clear that out and enter into the state of wow life is good. I can accept myself as I have been accepted, I was never judged, I was always expecting to be judged but I wasnt. My mind slowly quietened down and it began overly obvious that the judgements I make are not only unnecessary pointless and hurtful but are just built on delusion.<\/p>\n<p>So i share that cos when you do hangout with guys who have done a lot of work within themselves it sort of affects you deep into the bone, marrow hits the marrow. Dhammarato taught me that he had it real good I think, being cared for in the right way can totally change you, waking up to caring for the right things and stop caring about nonsense. I feel almost sorry for those who are stuck around ordinary pissy unhappy people all day, that&#8217;s hard, you really have to commit to right effort right there. Its my idea of what a blessing is. Your life can change quickly for the good<\/h6>\n<p><a href=\"mailto:mlgcostello@gmail.com\">Email<\/a><\/p><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Ir3eJ1t13fk&#038;ab_channel=PeterSantenello\">URL<\/a><\/p><p>Views: 31<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Cathal Costello Costello Share a quick story of the monk in the middle. He was a big part of me having the balls to ordain as a monk. He was really a wild monk early on apparently(from what I was told) but the calmness and genuine metta he had really surprised me. I was around [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":212,"featured_media":16204,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[142],"tags":[159],"class_list":["post-16202","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dhamma-lesson","tag-community"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16202","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/212"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16202"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16202\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16206,"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16202\/revisions\/16206"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/16204"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16202"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16202"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/opensanghafoundation.org\/test\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16202"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}